I have a new story at Used Furniture Review.
UFR is a fairly new online journal, and editor David Cotrone has been publishing some great stuff, including work by Kim Chinquee, Julie Innis, Michelle Reale and Randall Brown,
I wrote “Where Shall We Meet?” for one of NPR’s three-minute fiction contests. Alas, I didn’t win, but I got a story out of it, and I’m happy this one found a home at UFR.
It’s January 3, 2011, and yesterday I finished reading the Raymond Carver bio by Carol Sklenicka.
I think Stephen King nailed it in his New York Times review when he called the book “exhaustive and exhausting.” It really wore me out. It really, at times, depressed the hell out of me. Often I wanted to take a break and stop reading, but I always kept going.
What kept me going was Carver’s sheer determination to carve (sorry) a literary life for himself. (It also helped knowing that eventually he got sober after years of drinking and out-of-control alcoholism. He took his last drink at the Jambalaya bar in Arcata in 1977.)
For so many years he struggled — trying to write, submitting stories to small magazines, working crap jobs, raising a family, declaring bankruptcy (twice), bouncing around from one teaching job to another, gaining, at long last, the literary reputation and career he dreamed about.
But what struck me the most was how his family struggled, too. His wife, Maryann, supported him for long stretches. Carver’s writing was the focus of the family. And his kids also struggled. Yes, alcohol was involved (Maryann also drank), but it was painful to read about the sacrifices made, all in the name of “art.”
Carver’s essay “Fires” discusses how his children have been his greatest influence. But not in a positive way. He talks of his children as a “baleful” influence. He talks about the “ravenous and ferocious years of parenting.” He talks about the burden of family life and caring for his children: “And I would always have them, and always find myself in this position of unrelieved responsibility and permanent distraction.”
There’s a heartbreaking scene in the bio when Carver’s son, Vance, is talking to Tobias Wolff. Vance says: “My father is really good, isn’t he?” And Wolff says: “Your dad is one of the greatest short story writers of all time.”
Yet Carver’s family, including Vance, was repeatedly hurt by his stories and poems.
And this, ultimately, is what got to me: the sacrifice between life and art. The sharing of vibrant, wonderful, necessary stories vs. the pain bestowed by those stories, both in their creation and their journey into the world.
There’s much more to the book of course — the whole Lish/Carver thing is fascinating — but that’s what I’m processing now. It’s relevant because I’m also raising a family. And I worry that my writing impacts my family negatively. I worry about a lot of things these days. Potential New Year’s resolution: not to worry so damn much.
Anyway.
At some point I want to read Maryann Carver’s memoir, What It Used to Be Like. But for now, I’m Carver’d out.
“It wasn’t easy. I was the worst-read person in the room and I was handing in the most unpolished stories. I knew I was behind but I was also in love with what I was doing. I’m also a bullheaded person, so I did the work. I got up at 4 a.m. and wrote until 2 p.m. every day. It was crazy. I was handed a list of 100 books every writer should read. I hadn’t read any of them. But I read them all in a single year. Being a writer is equal parts talent and drive. A lot of people I went to school with were more talented. I kept hammering long after they hung up their tools.”
From an interview with Benjamin Percy, author of The Wilding
It’s called “Job History” and you can read it here.
It’s kind of a companion piece to my story “Three,” which was published in wigleaf a while back.
Moon Milk Review recently got a nice call out from Flavorwire as one of the top 10 online magazines.
Big thanks to MMR’s editor Rae Bryant for including my story.
“Hope but not enthusiasm is the proper state for the writer.”
— James Salter, from a Paris Review interview
